One of the first mindful tasks I did on my journey to shed pounds was to find out why I wanted to lose weight.
For me it was key, because my M.O. was to lose weight for an event – a wedding, a vacation, a reunion. The week before the event luscious, sugary food treats would begin to invade my mind.
When the big day came, instead of congratulating myself on a job well done, I awoke thinking about all the foods I could eat that day. If anyone could read my mind they would see ice cream, cookies, cake, Twizzlers – all the foods I had deprived myself of for way-too-many months.
And eat I did, because I told myself the next morning I would wake up and go right back to my diet. And you know what happened next: The next morning came and went. And the pounds started to creep back on, until one day I said enough, would get on the scale, and discover – if I was lucky – that I was back to where I started. In most cases, I had packed on extra weight.
What was different this time?
I looked at the big picture. I was not losing weight for an event. Here’s what I asked myself:
Why do you want to lose weight?
Because I want to look good.
Because I am tired of my fat clothes and want a new wardrobe.
Because I feel better and more confident when I am wearing something new and honestly, I am so tired and my knees hurt that my confidence is at an all-time low.
Because I am eating foods that make me tired and keep me fat and because I want to be healthy.
Because I want to lead a healthy, long life. And if I keep going, I will not do that.
No answer. So I found my big picture. I wrote it down and keep it posted all over my house.
So here’s what to do.
Get out a piece of paper and do this exercise, trying to find your big-picture why.
Please make sure your why is not event drive. Why? Because that just sets you up for failure.